Growing up, Disney was my favorite channel. I could name lots of shows that surrounded my childhood. Oh, The suite life of Zack & Cody, Wizards of Waverly Place, Good Luck Charlie, Austin & Ally, A.N.T. Farm, Hannah Montana OMG! So many. You can tell I was a Disney freak. Let’s not forget the Evergreen movies, Cinderella, Beauty & the Beast, Snowhite, Shrek, Princess and the Frog. These movies were a significant part of my childhood, and I would say imaginations and fantasies from my favorite movies/shows lingered unto my adulthood. It formed my idea of a relationship. How a relationship should be, the do’s, the don’ts and the so-called happy ever after. I guess I got it all wrong. There isn’t any happily ever after. I got scammed.
So what am I trying to drive at? What is my thought process and intention? Well, let’s say last night I had an epiphany; romantic relationships aren’t a fun ride. There are times I want to quit or strangle my partner (not literally) or maybe walk away for a quick moment or probably a lifetime. That might seem straightforward if I wasn’t in a committed relationship or especially if Christ wasn’t in the center. I guess it’s inevitable now and I have to go back to the source and author of relationships.
In our world today, we have an alarming rate of broken relationships between couples, parents, and close friends. Why? Because most (I fall into this category) think relationships are responsible for our happiness. At a young age, I believed once I started dating, there will be an end to my insatiable wants, and all my worries will suddenly disappear. Or maybe there will be a fairy godmother to make my world perfect. I am older now, in a committed relationship with someone whom I adore, but I’ve come to figure out this is a myth the media made me believe as a child.
My partner can’t make me happy. He can’t solve my problems. He is just a faulty human who is as broken as I am. He has numerous flaws and isn’t the “perfect prince charming.” The moment I could comprehend this, I realized only Christ could make me content. No boyfriend, No girlfriend, parent, sibling, or friend can fill the void. There are no fairy tales in the real world, no happily ever after. However, when Christ comes first and he is the center of my being: he can fill that emptiness and play the role of a Fairy Godfather. He can make my struggling relationship a happily ever after and turn my annoying partner into the prince charming I’ve always wanted.
I am still a work in progress. All I can say is am glad I wasn’t in my 30s and 40s before I woke up from my imagination. However, I believe this is the first step to breakthrough. With that being said, THERE AIN’T NO FAIRY TALE; ONLY CHRIST can make your imaginations about a “perfect” relationship realistic.